I have been dating my boyfriend John for six months. I like him very much. John is funny and interesting guy. But people are not perfect. And John is not perfect either. We have been living together for four months. And even though I like him very much I just can’t stand his bad habits. Well, first of all he smokes regularly. And I’m not okay with it. I smoked myself but I gave up. And for me it is quite difficult to live with a smoker. I asked him several times not to smoke in my presence. Well, it worked for some period of time but then he ignored my asks. And I just can’t stand it anymore. He just doesn’t keep his promises. Of course he realizes that smoking is not healthy and we have discussed it several times. Anyway he keeps smoking. He tells me that he can’t quit because smoking is relaxing and even supporting. Well, as an ex-smoker I could understand him. Anyway I managed myself to give it up so I suppose he could do the same. I’m sure that he just doesn’t want to do it. I hate that disgusting smell in our apartment and I can’t stand full ashtrays all over the place. That’s terrible indeed. Also he likes to hang out with his friends. And it seems to me that he has problems with alcohol as well. I hope it just seems to me.
It seems to you that your boyfriend is overweight? And you have no idea what to do? Well, it depends on him but it even may hurt him if you share your worries directly. If he doesn’t takes the hints then you have to say him he should lose the weight. It doesn’t work as well? You have tried already several times? Then you have to be persistent because it concerns not only his physical appearance but mainly health issues. But if you are overweight yourself and blame your boyfriend then it wouldn’t work definitely. I mean you should start first. Otherwise you have no right to require something from him. I think it is obvious. Explain him that it would improve not only his physical appearance but his mood as well.