Strong Sides of Phlegmatics

They say the best roommates and colleagues are phlegmatics. So if you have entered the university and search for a good person to share a room with pay attention to the people with stolid personality. But how to identify phlegmatics? Phlegmatics are the people who are normally calm and self-collected. This calmness often makes the others think that the phlegmatic people are cool and indifferent. But actually this indifference is not what it seems to be. People with such personality are usually expressing their emotions with a slight delay. They are not unresponsive but a little bit slow when it concerns showing their feelings and emotions. On the one hand phlegmatic people are usually quite tolerant to the people of other personalities. On the other hand they can do well without the close communication with the others. So if you want to stay alone for a while your phlegmatic room mate won’t bother you.

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How to Become Happy Right Now

If you ask many people what is happiness you will get a lot of various answers. Every individual experiences the state of happiness in a unique way. The one thing that everyone would probably agree with is that happiness is a constantly elusive “substance”. It is often compared to air. We notice that the air exists only when we lack it. It may seem difficult to feel happy at once. Since the earliest childhood we were taught not to repose on our laurels and try to achieve more and more.

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Why Are People Afraid of Public Speech?

Everyone has probably faced the necessity to pronounce a speech in front of an audience. Everybody studied at school and presented numerous projects or perhaps sang in a college choir. Some people remain totally calm when they were to speak in public, but there are the ones who start feeling funny even the day before their speech or performance.

Public speeches are the necessary part of many professions, but may people still are afraid to speak in front of a group of other people. To help such individuals to cope with that problem it is sensible to find out where does it come from.

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Bad habits of my boyfriend.

I have been dating my boyfriend John for six months. I like him very much. John is funny and interesting guy. But people are not perfect. And John is not perfect either. We have been living together for four months. And even though I like him very much I just can’t stand his bad habits. Well, first of all he smokes regularly. And I’m not okay with it. I smoked myself but I gave up. And for me it is quite difficult to live with a smoker. I asked him several times not to smoke in my presence. Well, it worked for some period of time but then he ignored my asks. And I just can’t stand it anymore. He just doesn’t keep his promises. Of course he realizes that smoking is not healthy and we have discussed it several times. Anyway he keeps smoking. He tells me that he can’t quit because smoking is relaxing and even supporting. Well, as an ex-smoker I could understand him. Anyway I managed myself to give it up so I suppose he could do the same. I’m sure that he just doesn’t want to do it. I hate that disgusting smell in our apartment and I can’t stand full ashtrays all over the place. That’s terrible indeed. Also he likes to hang out with his friends. And it seems to me that he has problems with alcohol as well. I hope it just seems to me.

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How to motivate your boyfriend to lose weight.

It seems to you that your boyfriend is overweight? And you have no idea what to do? Well, it depends on him but it even may hurt him if you share your worries directly. If he doesn’t takes the hints then you have to say him he should lose the weight. It doesn’t work as well? You have tried already several times? Then you have to be persistent because it concerns not only his physical appearance but mainly health issues. But if you are overweight yourself and blame your boyfriend then it wouldn’t work definitely. I mean you should start first. Otherwise you have no right to require something from him. I think it is obvious. Explain him that it would improve not only his physical appearance but his mood as well.

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‘Troubled’ Teens or ‘Troubled’ Parents?

Adolescence is always an uneasy period both for the family and the child entering this age. The teens are often called “troubled”, but is it the child who is troubled? To understand this problem better let’s stop calling teens “troubled”, it’s better to say “we have some difficulties”. The main point is that parents often have more difficulties than their child. That means that the parents are those who are “troubled”. The parents in most cases need more help to understand their responsibility in the appearance of the problems with their child and to find the best way to cope with them. It’s not a rare situation when their teenage child is absolutely normal and his impudent behavior is a silent shout: “Notice me! I’m longing for your attention!” The material well-being is not so important than your sincere and open attitude towards your kid, as the leading type of activity in the period of adolescence is communication.

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